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"People only do to you what you allow."

That has been my motto for dealing with complaints and dissatisfaction.

What domain of your life do you feel like you have healthy boundaries?
Where do you tend to have porous boundaries?

A simple litmus test to figure this out: Pause and consider—

"Where in my life do I feel peace, fulfillment & joy?"

That's probably a place where you've got healthy boundaries.
Kudos to you!
For me, what comes to mind is: work, my health/body/mind, my children, my finances, and my friends & family relationships.

Next, ask yourself:
"Where in my life am I feeling heavier emotions like stress, overwhelm, guilt, or frustration?"

Probably a place where your boundaries look a little more like fishnet pantyhose.

Cue Morris Day!

In my life, this struggle is most prevalent in my marriage.

Parenting has definitely put a strain on our relationship.
With opposing work schedules and young/small children, it's easy for us to slip into "co-parenting roommates."

To protect our marriage, we have to be extra-intentional about putting boundaries in place
EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
-And usually in the form of what I call "Yes-Boundaries"... those that enable you to say "Yes" to yourself.

"Yes" to more sex & intimacy
"Yes" to more day dates & date nights
"Yes" to more conversations NOT centered on our children

The boundaries work in this area has looked like having what I call Courageous Conversations:
Me expressing my needs/wants/desires, along with my frustrations.

I love to connect with people, so hit reply and share with me:
1. Where do you feel you have healthy boundaries, and
2. Where in your life do your boundaries look a little more like fishnet pantyhose???

Want to put on some control-top pantyhose and feel a little more support?
Schedule a complementary Breakthrough Session with me.
We'll talk about where you are vs. where you want to be and explore some strategies to fill the holes & gaps!

Live well,

Gigi Gibbs