Get Your SEXY Back! 4 Things for O-Mazing Sex

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Get Your Sexy Back: 4 Things for O-Mazing Sex After Baby

(Psssst...you don’t need to have birthed a baby for this to apply)

 

Your hormones crashed, your body feels blah, and your libido has hit rock bottom.

Add to that the sheer exhaustion from 2am feedings and exerting so much damn energy to help your baby take a nap that lasts, oh, only 18 minutes, sex is also the last thing you feel like getting up for.

Give me the extra hour of sleep!

Fatigue aside, there’s also the physical discomfort that can leave a girl feeling tense and trepidatious about intercourse.

Let me tell you, sex after a baby is not the time to practice “getting comfortable with the uncomfortable.”

Not to mention, you might be feeling a little bit of anxiety because you just don’t want to be disappointed and not enjoy yourself.

So with that, here are 4 things a gal needs to get her sexy back!

#1 Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy.

Let me start by saying how pissed I was to not learn about PFPT until I was 41 and pregnant with baby #2.

This therapy should be essential care for ALL sexually active women, baby or not!

PFPT is a wonderful godsend to women’s health.

It can help with everything from painful sex to endometriosis to orgasm dysfunction to sexual trauma and it even helps you to not pee on yourself when you laugh!

I had PFPT during my 2nd pregnancy to help prepare my body for a safe, vaginal birth after previously having a cesarian (VBAC).

Then I went back for seconds after I gave birth so that I could support my body healing and so that sex would feel g o o d (if not better!) than before.

(Yes, y’all. Your Girl believes in this pelvic floor physical therapy stuff sooo much I was up in the doctor’s office at the PEAK of the pandemic, pre-vaccination...it was totally worth the risk, BTW.)

Whatever physical issue you’re dealing with, find a pelvic floor physical therapist to tune it up and add some vrrroooom to your engine. (Sorry for the car analogy...my 4 year-old is going through an obsessive car phase. It’s all I hear these days.)

#2 The next thing I’m going to recommend to get back to feeling fabulous in exploring your sexual self: Nair.

At the peak of the pandemic, I couldn’t even get a haircut, much less a bikini wax!

I had to do a throwback to my mother’s vanity cabinet!

With no access to a salon, Nair was my answer to get that super-silky smooth feel down there. Even with businesses reopening, it’s still my go-to. I don’t have to drive anywhere. I can do it safely at home.
And did I mention it’s absolutely painless!

(BTW, the next time you’re going through the pain of a bikini wax, remind yourself who you’re doing it for--YOU! In my 20s that shit was definitely for a man’s pleasure. But in my 30s & 40s it’s all for moi!)

After you’ve done some lady landscaping you just might find yourself wanting to touch and explore more…

#3 Which takes me to the next thing you need to get your sexy back:
Some quality lube!

Whether you're going for solo pleasure or connecting with your partner, take the pressure off yourself to provide all the juiciness needed to keep it comfortable.

Lube it up!

My go-to is Velvet Rose Water Based Personal Lubricant.

It’s super-clean feeling, not sticky, and it’s medical-device grade and FDA-registered.

It’s hands-down the best lubricant I have ever used! (pun totally intended!)

#4 Finally, the last thing needed to get your sexy back after baby (or some other hiatus) is The Rose vibrator.

Y’all, this little red dame of delight should be in every gal’s boudoir.

Seriously.

Get one. Now.

You’re welcome.

Whether you're worried about penetration after birth (see #1, PFPT), feeling satisfied or the added stress of pleasuring your partner, having this little magic device will help you get there, stress-free and pleasure-FULL!

Don’t believe me, just checkout what this reviewer said:

Hilarious! I couldn’t have said it better.

If you’re still reading, I’m putting all this out there because getting into one’s body is crucial for a high-performing woman.

She’s got waaay too much going on and needs to r-e-l-a-x

When a high-performing woman is stuck in her head, negative self-talk and the 3-headed horsemen named Guild, Shame and Should are running the show.

When a woman is connected to her body she is more:

  • Creative

  • Powerful

  • Relaxed

  • Connected

  • Intuitive

  • Confident

And less:

  • Stressed

  • Anxious

  • Critical

  • Controlling

  • Fatigued

There are many ways to get into your body and connected with your Higher Self.
Sex, like language, is just one dialect of experiencing body-connectedness.

A pillar of my coaching framework includes helping women to get out of their minds, and into their bodies.

If you want to learn more about working together, apply for a complementary Breakthrough Session.

Live well,
Gigi